The Sacred Middle: Choosing Wholeness Over Escape

There’s been a quiet theme threading through my life lately—one that Spirit keeps gently illuminating. Dichotomy. Integration. The space where opposites dissolve into wholeness. For so long, I believed I had to choose: be spiritual or be grounded. Be pure or indulge. Transcend or embody. I thought I had to renounce one to be worthy of the other.

But that belief is softening now.

The other day, I found myself standing in front of a pastry case. It might seem small—but for me, this moment held something sacred. Previously, I’d spin into hesitation, lost in a loop of guilt, rules, and the ever-present need to please. I’d ask someone else what I should pick—seeking permission to want what I wanted.

But this time, I chose differently. I picked what lit up my heart—a dessert I’d never tried, something curious and new. I didn’t rush. I didn’t overthink. I didn’t punish myself with guilt afterward.

I tasted every bite with presence. And in that moment, something profound dropped in: I don’t have to choose the red pill or the blue pill. I don’t have to live in duality at all. I am free to dance between the worlds. To be spirit and body. Light and shadow. Stillness and sensation.

This is the soul’s lesson—to be here now without needing to escape, because this body, this world, these senses—they are not less than spiritual. They are the very tools our soul chose to grow through. And it reminded me of something ancient. The Buddha called it the Middle Path—a way between extremes, a life of balance, wisdom, and mindful presence. Not rigid denial, not blind indulgence—but a conscious return to center.

And that’s when Rumi’s words echoed through me like a bell:

“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about. Ideas, language… even the phrase “each other”—doesn’t make any sense.”— Rumi

That’s what it felt like—eating that dessert with no shame, choosing with clarity, with joy. I had found the field. The spiritual path is not about denying the body or rejecting the world. It’s about transforming our experience of the world—reclaiming our power to choose, to feel, to savor.

Yes, I can go into deep meditation and touch the infinite. And yes, I can pick the most beautiful éclair and let it awaken joy in my cells. Both are sacred. I’m no longer here to escape the Matrix. I’m here to know I’m in it—and choose joy anyway, to taste life without getting lost in it, to feel emotions without identifying with them, to create beauty and meaning in the space between extremes. This is what true freedom feels like. And today, I chose presence. I chose me. I chose the sacred middle.

🌿 An Invitation to You

Where in your life have you felt caught between two extremes—between right and wrong, spiritual and material, doing and being?

What if there’s a third way?

What if your joy doesn’t lie in choosing sides, but in choosing you—in wholeness, in awareness, in conscious experience?

Next time you find yourself in a moment of choice—whether it’s a big life decision or something as simple as dessert—pause. Feel. Ask:

What would wholeness choose here?

And then… choose with love.

Let’s meet each other in the field.

With so much love,

Solarys