Wearing My Parents’ Wedding Rings: A Devotion to What Was

Lately, I’ve been wearing my parents’ wedding bands. Two simple gold circles. Quiet. Ordinary. Easy to overlook. But to me, they hold an entire universe.

My parents stopped wearing these rings a long time ago—after they decided their marriage was a failure. For years, I carried that story in my body, even if I didn’t always have words for it. Because when your parents are unhappy, you don’t just witness it…you absorb it. Somewhere inside, my inner child held a painful belief: If their marriage was a failure… what does that make me?

The Satori

Recently, I asked my mom for the rings. She gave them to me. And something softened inside me—something shifted so clearly it felt like truth arriving all at once:

Nothing was a mistake.

Not their union.

Not their pain.

Not the ending.

Not the lessons hidden inside the hard years.

This life isn’t here to be judged as “successful” or “unsuccessful.” It’s an Earth School, a place where we experience love, loss, contrast, growth, everything.

What These Rings Mean to Me Now

I don’t wear these rings to romanticize my parents’ relationship. I don’t wear them to pretend they were happy. I wear them to honor the union that brought me to life—without forcing a label onto it. To me, these rings mean:

💛 This happened.

💛 This mattered.

💛 This created me.

💛 This shaped my path.

💛 This was part of my soul’s curriculum.

Their marriage didn’t need to be perfect for my life to be sacred.

Releasing the Word “Failure”

We are taught that if something ends, it failed.

But my spirit doesn’t believe that anymore.

Some relationships aren’t meant to last forever.

Some are meant to be a doorway, a catalyst, a teacher, a lesson that completes itself. And sometimes the purpose of a union isn’t the “happy ending”…it’s the life it creates, the awakening it ignites, the cycles it breaks through the child who grows from it.

A Message to Your Inner Child (and Mine)

As I wear these rings, I’m also speaking to the younger version of me:

You were never a mistake.

You were never a consequence of failure.

You don’t have to carry their unhappiness as your burden.

You don’t have to prove anything to justify your existence.

You are here because you were meant to be.

I wear my parents’ wedding bands as a devotion.

Not to the story of “forever,” but to the truth that nothing in this Earth School is wasted.

The good.

The bad.

The beautiful.

The painful.

It all teaches.

It all shapes.

It all becomes medicine.

And today, I honor the union that brought me to life, with gratitude, without judgment, and with the knowing that nothing was a mistake.

With love,

Solarys💛